Relationships these days just get all dried up because the ‘spark’ is no longer there. You like a guy, a guy likes you, you two get off on a sweet note, u share your happy moments together, you are always happy wen u see their texts, or calls.. The relationship gets all rosy and at a point, it all begins to die down slowly.
You all begin to wonder why he or she develops this cold attitude towards you. You start feeling insecure, a lot of things begin to run through your mind.. “Is he in love with me anymore, or does he still have those feelings for me? Whichever the case maybe, there has to be a problem somewhere. Let us look at those “little” things we all do that scares or makes him slowly lose interest in the relationship.
1. you stalk his every move Most of us ladies, if not all, are guilty of this. Especially in social media, we tend to check out their online activities like whose picture the complimented, their comments relating to posts, their conversations with the opposite sex. And when we do all these, we confront them about what they said or didnt say and use it as a tool against them. He feels freaked out and begins to wonder if he fell in love with a detective. Slowly, he loses interests in u, because he feels choked up.
Remedy to this: stop stalking him, stop it. Learn rather to trust him and mind ur own business, it will save your relationship a lot of stress.
2: telling him “I love you” just to know his reaction now, it takes different times for people to fall in love with someone. For some, it might take a moment, some a day, while some are months or even years. Yes, you love the guy.. Ok.. But the question is, does he love you yet? You tell him you love him just to know what he feels about you is so so wrong. He may not fall in love with you easily but with time, he gets to see how amazing you are and falls in love with you. So when next you wana tell someone u really love them, please be sure that they do love you back, if not, hold it.. Until you are sure. Never ever make the grave mistake of telling him you love him just to find out if he loves u back, or else, it may backfire and your feelings get hurt.
Remedy: give him time, be patient.. Don’t force him to love u.
3: being too serious now this is another killer of relationships. The reason why ur relationship is gradually loosing its spark is because we ladies tend to act too seriously. Now what do I mean by too seriously,
We aren’t playful, we don’t have good sense of humor, we tend to read silly meanings to his words, we always think if he is silent, That